Do You Know Yourself?

Before you let someone deeply into your world, do you know what that world looks like?

Do you know what you want? Do you know what matters to you? Do you know what you need? Do you know what you will not accept? Do you know what makes you happy? Do you know what kind of life you are trying to build?

Sometimes we become so focused on finding the right person that we forget to ask whether we actually know ourselves.

We can say we want love when what we really want is companionship. We can say we want a relationship when what we really want is to feel chosen. We can accept someone into our lives before we have decided what kind of life we want to live.

And sometimes, without realizing it, we begin changing ourselves to fit the relationship.

This Reality Check is not about having yourself completely figured out. You are allowed to grow. You are allowed to change. You are allowed to discover new things about yourself.

The question is whether you are actively getting to know yourself or allowing other people to decide who you should become.

You do not need to be perfect before you let someone into your world. But you should know yourself well enough to recognize when you are compromising who you are just to keep someone.

Find yourself. Know yourself. Build yourself. Then allow people into your world because they complement the life you are building — not because you are hoping they will create one for you.