Prenup Reality Check

People often say, "If you love someone, you should not need a prenup."

But that belief deserves a closer look.

A prenup is not a prediction that your marriage will fail. It is not a sign that you do not trust your partner. It is not a document only for the wealthy. And it is certainly not a rejection of love.

A prenup is simply a legal agreement that two people make before marriage to clarify how certain financial matters would be handled if the marriage ends, either through divorce or death.

So the real question is not "Do you believe in prenups?"

The real question is: "Why do you believe what you believe about prenups?"

Is your position based on your own careful consideration of your financial circumstances? Or is it shaped by love, fear, pressure, trust, assumptions, or the opinions of your partner, friends, and family?

This Reality Check does not tell you whether you should or should not get a prenup. It helps you understand why you have made the decision you have made, and whether that decision is truly yours.

There are no right or wrong answers. The goal is clarity.